Abstract:

It is well known that more than a half of families with foster children has various difficulties with school adaptation and education. According to the observations recently adopted children has such difficulties as well as long-termed ones. The majority of studies points out problems at all levels of child development. According to our recordings one of the key problems lies in the difficulties of both foster children and their parents. For our work we made a survey to understand what foster parents feel and think about these school problems. It was filled up by thirty parents, and we saw that they have a high level of self-blame and a sense of responsibility for the situation.
In this regard a group of parents (12 mothers) was recruited from the respondents and 12 supportive meetings were held for them. During the work of the group the participants had shared their experience of the main school difficulties, and a joint discussion of its causes was held. The parents had altogether discussed different ways out of difficult situations, and that had provided each of them with invaluable support and had generalized their common resources. All of this made it possible to reduce the parents’ anxiety and become aware of their experience as a part of the development of their relationship with a child. The following topics were brought up during the group work: the development of parenting as a process of personal growth and building relationships; the formation of boundaries in relations with children and the social environment. As a result, the parents’ emotional state had changed, their anxiety had decreased and understanding of adopted children and their attitude to the situation was improved. Beside this the schooling of their children has changed during this period as well. In the paper below we discuss the main topics of the mentioned parents’ group and main supporting methods for adoptive parents during their children schooling.

Keywords:

Schooling, adoptive parents, adoptive children.